When do you need to consult with a couple's counselor?

  • Communications between the partners often take on a negative tone of and result in hostility or antagonistic encounters
  • Communications are so bad that most talks about marriage problems end up in arguments or verbal fights
  • Marriage problems have led to violence or physical fighting
  • Marital troubles cause one spouse to become depressed, anxious, drink excessively, feel insecure, lose their self-esteem or withdraw
  • One or both partners avoids or withdraws from the other or develops a lifestyle that leaves out the other against their wishes
  • There are sexual problems in the relationship that cannot seem to be solved and if the sexual problems cause negative feelings or frustration
  • Either marital partner has been unfaithful or is seriously considering having an affair
  • A couple agrees together that they have marriage problems and do not know how to change things or solve their differences
  • A spouse acts out feelings with actions that are mean, hateful or resentful
  • Partners are staying together "for the sake of the children"

If you recognize your marriage in any of the above scenarios then you and your partner may be in serious need of relationship advice in guidance from a trained marriage counselor or family therapist.


Why Choose a Marriage Counselor or Family Therapist?


Certainly, your friends, family and religious community can be excellent sources of advice, guidance and support for you and your partner in your time of need. However, no one is better equipped than a trained professional, such as a marriage counselor or family therapist, to help you work through the toughest parts of your marital difficulties.


• Research repeatedly demonstrates the effectiveness of marriage and family therapy in treating the full range of mental and emotional disorders and health problems that may arise in times of marital difficulty.
• Studies show that clients are highly satisfied with services of marriage counselors and family therapists. Clients report marked improvement in work productivity, co-worker relationships, family relationships, partner relationships, emotional health, overall health, social life and community involvement.
• Marriage and Family Therapists regularly practice short-term therapy. About half of the treatment provided by MFTs is one-on-one with the other half divided between couple and family therapy, or a combination of treatments.


Client Satisfaction with Treatment


• 98.1% rated services as good or excellent
• 97.1% got the kind of help desired
• 91.2% were satisfied with the amount of help
• 93.0% say their needs were met
• 98.0% say they were helped in dealing more effectively with problems
• 94.3% would return to same therapists in future
• 96.9% would recommend therapists to a friend
• 97.4% were generally satisfied with the service received

What is EMDR?

By The EMDR Institute

EMDR therapy is recognized as an effective form of trauma treatment in numerous practice guidelines worldwide. In the US, this includes organizations such as the American Psychiatric Association and Department of Defense. More than twenty randomized studies support the effectiveness of the therapy in the treatment of PTSD. Further, more than twenty randomized studies have demonstrated positive effects of the eye movements.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)1 is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy approach. It contains elements of many effective psychotherapies in structured protocols that are designed to maximize treatment effects. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, experiential, and body-centered therapies2.
EMDR psychotherapy is an information processing therapy and uses an eight phase approach to address the experiential contributors of a wide range of pathologies. It attends to the past experiences that have set the groundwork for pathology, the current situations that trigger dysfunctional emotions, beliefs and sensations, and the positive experience needed to enhance future adaptive behaviors and mental health.



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